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Use when requesting assistance from a powerful party at negligible cost to them. Based on Su Dai's (苏代) candlelight metaphor — framing the request as sharing excess that costs nothing ('your candlelight has surplus; share it and lose nothing') to maximize willingness to help.

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Diplomatic Favor Request

Based on Su Dai's "poor woman's candlelight" metaphor used to help Gan Mao's family.

Overview

Request assistance by framing it as something that costs the giver nothing but helps you greatly.

Steps

  1. Acknowledge Your Position

    • Admit your current difficulty
    • Do not pretend to equality

  2. Use Appropriate Metaphor

    • "A poor woman said to a rich woman: 'I cannot afford candles, but your candlelight has extra. Share the excess with me - it costs you nothing and helps me greatly.'"

  3. Identify What They Have in Excess

    • Influence, connections, information
    • Something they can share without loss

  4. Make the Request

    • Ask them to use their excess to help you
    • Emphasize: "No loss to you, great gain for me"

  5. Express Gratitude

    • Acknowledge the favor
    • Create obligation for future reciprocity

Key Principle

People are more willing to help when the cost to them is zero or negligible. Frame requests to emphasize this.

Expected Outcomes

  • Assistance granted
  • Relationship maintained
  • No resentment from giver

Validation

  1. Confirm the requested assistance genuinely costs the giver nothing or negligibly little — if the cost is hidden or underestimated, the relationship will suffer
  2. Verify your framing honestly acknowledges your position of need rather than pretending to equality — transparent humility increases willingness to help
  3. Check that gratitude was expressed and a reciprocity obligation established for the future